My friend, that offered to be our surrogate, called me during the middle of our adoption class. I didn't answer but she left me a voicemail. I listened to it during our brake. I called her back but she didn't answer. Her voicemail was very vague so I knew it was about a baby. She called me again when class started so I called her after class was over. She saw on faceb**k someone knew someone that was placing her baby for adoption. I emailed the lawyer and just got a response today. I know nothing about the birth mom or baby, just she is due in 10 weeks. The lawyer wrote me back saying he sent the mom our information but she was looking for someone further away and without other children. I knew this was a long shot, but totally worth taking. I have a feeling that since we have two children we are going to be faced with a lot of disappointment.
But man am I grateful to have these two little sweeties. I can't imagine not having sisters.
I don't understand the preference of placing a baby with a family who doesn't have other kids. I am so thankful I grew up with an older brother and sister. I would never want my daughter to grow up as an only child, without brothers or sisters to play with and to learn sharing with. Not to mention, someday when Jason and I are old and we need our kids to take care of US, I'd hate for that burden to fall on just one child. I was surprised when Precious's birth mom said to us, "So I assume she'll be an only child?" I don't know what made her think that, except that I know she loves the idea that Precious is a daddy's girl and wants her to be totally spoiled by Jason. (Maybe longing for the childhood she didn't have?) It's really kind of sweet that she hopes that for Precious but it just caught me off guard when she assumed we wouldn't want to have other children.
ReplyDeleteI know! I am one of 6. The thought of Pumpkin being an only child literally gave me a panic attack. It was such a relief when we were placed with Honey. She is so perfect for our family. I do understand wanting to give a childless couple the joy of parenting, but really, I would appreciate that child just as much, if not more.
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