Surprise

I found Honey's birthmom online.   I was given a very small picture of her from Honey's previous foster home.  So I was pretty sure it was her.  When I clicked on her picture I saw Honey's picture. BOOM there it was.  I was digging around and looked on her Bio grandma's page who is surprisingly VERY normal.  When I got that tiny picture of Honey's Bmom I had an idea of bio grandma in my head and that was not it.  So then I started thinking, could I have a relationship with this woman? Honey would obviously love it.  Most children who were adopted crave to know that other half.  While I have zero desire to have contact with her bmom.  I seriously think it would be good for her to have some information about that part of her life.  Who knows, maybe I would even get some more pictures!

IF we wrote her I would have a friend send my email address anonymously.  We would go by first names until I felt comfortable sharing. I would refer to Honey by her birthname, again, until I felt comfortable.

So, what do you think? What would you do? Would you wait until Honey starts asking questions? Or go now? Or close the door completely?




I also saw that Petunia has been (or will soon be) adopted. Well that went much faster than I thought it would. The picture of her is so pretty. While I am 1000% happy with the choice we made; seeing that made me wonder about the possibility of having two babies right now.   I know it worked the way God had planned it, but she was such a sweet baby and I will always think of her.  We were chosen because her forever family wasn't ready for her yet.  We were meant to have our lovely Bear.  And we were meant to have another brown baby in the family.  If it would have worked out and we were allowed to keep Petunia, Honey would have been the odd ball out, and I don't like the idea of that one bit.

But having Petunia made me really want another little girl.  While I was set on saying only an AA or biracial baby boy for our last one, I THINK we might say either sex.  With Bear, we said if the birth parents don't know the sex show us, but if they know they are having a girl, don't show us.  I don't know that I will be that specific next time.  While I would LOVE to have a brother for Bear, I would also love another little girl.  Of course, I gave away all of my girls clothes because I thought that was it. I have a girls named picked and planned (that would have been Petunia's name).  I don't have a boys name picked, we have a short list.



And on another totally random note, Honey keeps asking when Bear is going to leave and where Peanut is.  I'm afraid I scarred her for life by fostering.  Of course if we didn't foster we wouldn't have her.  It doesn't matter how many times I explain that Bear is staying with us forever she doesn't get it.  I'm seriously wondering if I should put her in therapy to help her get over that loss??  Maybe it's something she will understand as she matures?