Today, by that I mean yesterday (I hate writing in the future), I took Pumpkin to school. Most Thursday mornings I have a mom of the school watch my car while I run Pumpkin in. Then I don't have to get Bear and Honey out and things are run much more smoothly. Today, that mom was sick. So my kids went in. I don't think I have felt that visible with my family before. While I know that the people at the grocery store remember me because we have a transracial family; it could also be because my kids are just that cute. In my city, transracial adoption is nothing new. When we go to the zoo or the mall, I can spot out every blended family. But today, we walk in and everyone that walks past says to Pumpkin, "Who's your friend?" or "What's your friend's name?". Pumpkin's school is VERY white, rich white. I very much feel out of place, but we sent her there to save money for Bear's adoption. We told everyone that that's her sister, Honey. You could tell they were embarrassed. But still, why wouldn't they ask, "Who is this?" instead of, "Who is your friend?". I know I am overreacting, but I have honestly never felt that exposed with her. I think I never get questioned because Honey is biracial so I think people assume she could be my biological daughter. When I see an AA child with a family, and it's obvious it's their child, you know that child is adopted. There is obviously not a doubt. But Honey can easily play tricks on people and make them question and guess our family.
I don't know why I'm writing this. I think I'm just bored of posting nothing but pictures.
In other news, we still haven't had a meeting with our foster agency. I called and left a voicemail and still hadn't heard back from the supervisor. So I finally called again today and she is on medical leave and will be out some time. So that made me feel a little bit better, knowing they weren't just flat out leaving me in the dust.
I know you're protective of Honey's story and that's a good thing, but I always appreciate a heart-felt post about some of the challenges of adoption too. I never get questions or my second looks when I'm alone with Ali since she's biracial too but when Jason and I are together, we get more double takes. It'll be interesting to see how things change as other kids are added to our pack, potential of all different colors. My favorite open-ended question up to this point is still, "Where was she born?" It gives me a lot of different options of how to answer.
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